Thursday, July 20, 2006

Marriage - natural, religious or social trick?

I was dragged this weekend into a conversation, with many elders of the family; those elders that moral-science books call 'the wise ones' whom we need to 'lend an ear to' and take advice, in typical norms that we memorized in prose at school or some soap opera.

I sat with folded arms and mock-courtesy listening to the conversation, all aimed towards me and my ways of living. 'You should feel that lonliness', they said. 'Atleast learn to start feeling that loneliness', said another. 'In another year, you should be married' was the conclusion, to which I was expected to yet again, nod.

The funny aspect of the average human's view towards marriage is the fact that, no matter what, it is an inevitable bond you cannot escape from. While in the context of Adam and eve, or any other "love-story" that may or may not involve the original sin, marriage is perhaps that stage where you are lucky to heighten your persona to a level bigger than your very own - the paradox of a true marriage. I know of people who are die-hard believers of the fact that you do things at a certain age: you are in school from age two to twenty-two, fall in love at twenty-three, marry at twenty-five and live happily ever after, soon after. Who are we, Cinderella?! With family elders posing as fairy godmothers waving their wands. Oh, I just lost my shoe!

Social anthropology can be tricky to its very core. As Matt Ridley puts it, it's your genetic pool that determines when you are ready for marriage, as religious leaders put it, it's social values that dictate the time you get married; and as politicians put it, it's sheer convinience that drives you to marry! So as humans, let's just call ourselves lucky to have the scope of picking one of these many doctrines or rather be wary of the doctrine governing us!